Rs 5,000 crore self-made man to parents: 'Stop pampering kids, your love alone won't make children feel loved'

Parenting in the modern world often feels like walking a tightrope. Pamper your child too much and risk raising someone entitled. Do too little and you might leave them emotionally insecure. The delicate balance between love, discipline, and boundaries is something every parent tries to master, and recently, this age-old dilemma sparked a conversation online that caught the attention of none other than self-made billionaire and Thyrocare founder, Dr. A. Velumani.

It all began with a simple yet thought-provoking post on X (formerly Twitter), where a user commented on the dangers of over-pampering children. The user wrote about how kids who are excessively pampered may grow up to take things for granted, while those who aren’t shown enough affection may feel unloved or neglected. The key, the user suggested, lies in balancing both ends to raise emotionally healthy, grounded individuals.

Dr. Velumani, known for his blunt and insightful takes on life, business, and now parenting, didn’t just read and scroll past. He reshared the tweet and added his own brief yet impactful message: “Love or not—Positive feels loved often. Negative feels unloved often. Naseeb Apna Apna. But Parent, Do not Pamper for possible prosperity.”

Love or not

1. Positive feels loved often.
2. Negative feels unloved often.

Naseeb Apna Apna.
But Parent, Donot Pamper for possible prosperity. https://t.co/l4aY4x14KL

— Dr. A. Velumani.PhD. (@velumania) May 14, 2025

In a culture where showering kids with gadgets, rewards, and leniency is often mistaken for good parenting, Velumani’s tweet is a sharp nudge to recalibrate. His words echoed with thousands, especially coming from someone who built a Rs 5,000 crore empire from scratch, without privilege, inheritance, or excess pampering. Velumani’s rise from a small village of Appanaickenpatti Pudur, near Coimbatore, to becoming a diagnostic industry titan is rooted in resilience, struggle, and self-reliance. His comment is a subtle reminder that children, too, must be allowed to face challenges, fail, and learn, rather than be shielded by overbearing love and convenience.

He urges parents not to confuse love with indulgence. Pampering, in the name of love, may end up doing more harm than good, especially when it dilutes a child’s capacity to cope with real-world struggles.